Zac – How One Family Will Handle Bereavement

Tracy Lee, Queen City Funeral HomeI buried a young man this weekend. He died before his time. He was on the cusp of becoming an adult; however, his youth had been stolen from him. He was diagnosed with brain cancer at a very young age and had lived the greater part of his life fighting this dreaded disease.

He died in a different state and came to me for burial. His family traveled a great distance to be here with him when he went into his grave. They were sad, but they had prepared for this tragedy in their lives. They had taken time out of their every days and had dedicated themselves to his last few years.

Now that he is gone, each family member has special memories that are unique to their hearts. There are no regrets of behavior or selfishness. There is sadness; there will always be sadness. One cannot avoid sadness at the passing of a loved one. They will each travel through the dreaded stages of grief, but they will have sweet experiences and memories to draw upon for comfort. In offering comfort to their young family member, they inadvertently gave themselves the greatest gift possible; memories to draw upon for comfort.

Not every family has advanced notice of impending death, yet every family has the opportunity to spend precious moments together. Why do we wait for tragedy to make time to share together? Because one never knows when their last moment on earth will strike, there are many things I would suggest we do with those we love. Of paramount importance however, today, I suggest you make time to spend precious moments with those you love. Do not let your life on earth slip away wishing you had just one more moment to quickly say, “I love you” to those who deserve to hear such tender words.

Take time and vow to do something to let those you love, know and feel your love for them. Get off the computer, turn off the singing competition, put the electronic games away and for heaven’s sake, let go of the coliseum sports. Turn instead to those who if they were gone tomorrow would crumble your world. Do not waste one more moment on social media with social friends. Spend real time making real memories with those you really love.

That is what Zac’s family did. That is what will get them through his death.

About Tracy Lee

My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Funeral Director (FDIC), published author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.

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