Tracy Lee

My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Funeral Director (FDIC), published author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award.It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.

Recent Articles

GOD BLESS AMERICA

I attended a Veterans Day event this past week. A woman spoke about her son’s military service, her pride in his sacrifices, her fears for his safety, and the sadness and insecurities brought on by the deaths of his fellow service members. She said that she attended the funerals, one by one, of his fallen buddies. As she stood at the cemetery of one of the services, she specifically told the honor guard that she never wanted one of those flags nor to hear the rifles fire in her son’s honor. To her good fortune, her son survived his service to our great nation. Continue Reading →

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MY TASK LIST

I woke up early this morning. My mind became occupied with my daily task list. The first task being my article. I was supposed to write it four days ago, but my daughter and her children are visiting. Therefore, my daily task list has been pushed each day to today, the last day of the workweek. Continue Reading →

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THE SURVIVOR’S FINANCIAL PLIGHT

The death of one’s spouse requires infinite adjustments in one’s life. Whether one is senior or youthful, the reliance one has upon the other is mammoth. The personalities of selves; meld, and their union creates a new identity consisting of two who function as one. This joining of love and complete commitment to each other magnifies the power, ability, and motivation of their union to a never before realized invincibility. If the two remain committed through life, death brings devastation of the soul. Continue Reading →

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THE COST OF A SOUL

I addressed the family, as I often do, at the close of their service. We had been there four times before, burying members of their family. Today was a beautiful fall afternoon. 

The last time we had traveled to their cemetery, the weather had been quite different. The wind was whipping, the rain was torrential, the temperature was unusually bitter, and the grave flooded over its banks. We pumped and pumped, but no matter what, we could not drain the grave. Continue Reading →

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FORTUNE FROM MISFORTUNE

Mourning Coffee, by Tracy Renee Lee

We became friends six years ago upon the death of her husband. I had met her before, but when I entered the hospital room to transfer her husband to my funeral home, I saw her under pressure. It was then that I knew I liked and respected her. 

In years past, she had been a nurse; a military nurse. That meant she was strictly business, no drama. I admire and like that in a person; military service and no drama. Continue Reading →

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CREMATION PROCESS TIMETABLE

With the increased demand for cremation services in America, I have received numerous inquiries for information about what happens to the human corps as it experiences the process. 

Disclaimer

This article may be considered a little graphic. It will explain the process that a deceased human body passes through as the cremation process is imposed upon them. If you feel that this may be more information than you would like to have, please do not read this article. When cremation is chosen for a decedent, the family must decide if they want the body to be present at their services or whether they would prefer that the decedent goes straight to the crematory. If they decide to have the decedent at the services, the body must be embalmed and placed in a casket. Continue Reading →

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CREMATION OPTIONS

Mourning Coffee, by Tracy Renee Lee

When a family chooses to cremate their loved one, they are faced with just as many questions and decisions as those who choose to bury. All of the legal requirements surrounding the end of a human life still apply and whoever is next of kin must address these legalities in a timely and orderly manner. The loved ones of the deceased must also make decisions related to disposition. The most customary choices are earth burial or cremation. 

If cremation is chosen, the next of kin must decipher the needs of the circle of mourners and arrange the most efficacious service elements relative to their recovery. Some families are widespread and do not need a formal selection of service options traditionally associated with death, some; however, do. Continue Reading →

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John was Love

The past two weeks have been difficult for me. I have suffered the loss of a dear friend and have served families that have suffered great losses. The COVID-19 pandemic has caused unwarranted loss, stress, and heartache to so many people this year. Not only have we lost loved ones, but we have lost our economy, our comfort, and our security as Americans. 

Everywhere I look, it seems that people are rude and uncaring toward each other when what we need is love. 

I wish we could be kind to each other, considerate to each other, and help each other through our difficulties rather than burning cities, burning businesses, and tearing apart what makes up great, our Union. Americans are the most blessed people in the world. Continue Reading →

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GUILT

Mourning Coffee, by Tracy Renee Lee

I first met my friend when her husband passed away. It was a difficult time for her. I received the call that a man had passed at his home and that our services were requested by the family. My husband drove our hearse to the address and transferred the decedent back to our funeral home. The decedent’s wife came in to make final arrangements and that is when our friendship began. Continue Reading →

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