There are times in life when you are pleasantly surprised. For me, yesterday was one of those days. My day began as many do for a funeral director, with a flurry of families and mountains of paperwork. Yesterday, however, took a turn that was quite surprising.
As I headed into my office, my number one priority for the day was a client in flight from the west coast to the Dallas/Ft Worth airport. My transport driver left East Texas at 4:30 AM. Continue Reading →
Earlier this year I had the privilege of being in Maryland for my granddaughter’s birth. While I was there, my husband and I wanted to take our other grandchildren, her siblings, to Chesapeake Bay to walk the pier and enjoy ice cream sundaes together.
As we walked the pier, enjoying the cool breeze and melodious songbirds, we noticed that the benches lining the walk had memorial plaques on them. Our grandchildren are homeschooled, so we decided to practice reading the plaques as a language arts activity.
Many of the plaques were in honor of military personnel, some were for grandparents who loved the beach, and others had meaningful quotes. The most profound one on the pier that remains with me today, read as follows:
CDR Dan Shanower
Killed by cowards on 9/11/2001
“Freedom Isn’t Free”
I have always been a very patriotic person. I love America and all that she stands for. Continue Reading →
Although it may not seem like it, overcoming grief is possible. Sometimes, you may feel as though overcoming your grief is a betrayal to your loved one. Let me assure you this is not true. You may worry that recovery indicates that you have stopped loving your loved one. This is also untrue. Continue Reading →
My brother is an avid and accomplished writer. He not only loves it, but he is phenomenal at it. It is his craft, his forté, and his magic. Indeed, it is his superpower in life. My brother and I both write. Continue Reading →
Last week I had a client whose mother had passed away in a nursing home without insurance to help cover the expenses of her burial needs. His mother had only been in the nursing home for a few months. Upon discussion, my client thought his mother might have funds in her bank account. In exploration for funding, he asked for our assistance, and so we sent an inquiry to the bank on his behalf.
Prior to entering the nursing home, his mother had had substantial funding in her account. Regrettably, she nor her son consulted an end-of-life financial counselor or funeral practitioner prior to her entrance into the nursing facility. Continue Reading →
I just received a phone call from a friend whose brother I buried about 2 weeks ago. She was checking in with me because today is a holiday and she is missing her brother.
We spoke for a moment. Our conversation drifted to that which is most important to each of us; family. Additionally, we spoke of our blessings. We agreed to get together next week and work on her genealogy. Continue Reading →
As a funeral director, I interview families daily about the lives of their loved ones. My purpose is to extract vital, as well as, personal information. With this information, I am able to file proper documents pertaining to the decedent’s life, carry out wishes of final disposition, and write an accurate and proper obituary for the decedent.
Obituaries are unique instruments that are brief descriptions of a decedent’s life. Its purpose is to deliver vital information, as well as a brief personal description of the decedent’s life. Historically, an obituary was placed in the newspaper to alert the community that a death had occurred, and to post information pertaining to final services. Continue Reading →
I have the second most wonderful job on earth. I used to have the best job on earth. That job was raising my children. My daughters are now grown women who no longer need the undivided attention of their adoring mother, so with time on my hands, I now occupy my days with the second most wonderful job; the job of funeral directing.
When I decided to become a funeral director, I didn’t know that it was going to be such a wonderful job. In fact, at times I questioned myself about my decision. Continue Reading →
Patience is the ability to hold yourself in check until the change you seek materializes. It is rarely comfortable for change requires purpose, application, growth, and movement. Whether the change we seek is within ourselves, or in those around us, the application of patience, although long-suffering, may bring about great rewards. ~Tracy Lee
When suffering a significant loss, recovery may require months, and in some cases years to materialize. Recovery does not happen overnight. Continue Reading →
I have often written about the first key to recovery. GREIF BRIEF 208
The first key is recovery is to DECIDE TO RECOVER. (Mourning Light III, Tracy Lee)
Following the first key, would be the second key.
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DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE
While the first key to recovery is to decide to recover, the second key to recovery is to discover your purpose in life.
Without a purpose in life, it is impossible to recover to an acceptable standard of comfort.
You must have a purpose, a direction on which to focus your heart, mind, and efforts. Without such a purpose, your mind will dwell on the pain of your loss, and soon you will drown in anguish.
Your will alone will not bring total recovery. You must merge it with your mind’s ability to intellectually discern your purpose; your heart’s desire to serve, love, and accomplish that purpose; and your efforts to achieve your purposeful goals.
With profound purpose, your soul will redirect your energies toward its accomplishment, and the by-product will be grief recovery. Continue Reading →