Tracy Lee

My name is Tracy Renee Lee. I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Funeral Director (FDIC), published author, syndicated columnist, and co-founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, and Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award. It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.

Recent Articles

TAXATION GRIEF PART II

In one’s journey to grief recovery, one must first and foremost decide to recover. Without your decision to do so, recovery will not materialize. No one can recover for you. You alone must seek and obtain this recovery for yourself. Of course, there are others along the way that can and will assist you; however, if you want recovery, you must obtain it yourself. Continue Reading →

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TAXATION GRIEF

Today is the most dreaded day of the year, today is tax day. You’d think that after a year of government imposed shut downs, the bureaucrats would have lost their audacity to collect taxes from people whose income has suffered a severe decrease.  Apparently, bureaucrats don’t care if your income has suffered as long as their income has not. All around me I see families who have lost their homes, vehicles, jobs, businesses, and savings; but worst of all, I see individuals who have lost their self-worth. Whose fault is that? Who is responsible for the loss of so much? Continue Reading →

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EASTER IN GEORGIA

Today is Easter, it is morning, and I am visiting the beautiful state of Georgia. I am at my brother-in-law’s home near Savannah, and as I sit at his breakfast table, I can look out of his enormous bay windows into his backyard. His yard is filled with a small herd of deer, whom he calls his girls, waiting anxiously for him to rise and feed them buckets of sweet corn. Just behind these lovely does is a sandy bank where his pond, glimmering with the morning sun, greets my gaze with the promise and beauty of Christ’s gifts of redemption and love. My brother-in-law’s home is a tranquil retreat from the world that bombards my heart with strife and turmoil. Continue Reading →

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NEXT OF KIN

When a loved one dies, a next of kin steps forward and arranges final services for their loved one. If the decedent has avoided preparation for his/her services, this task may become very daunting for the next of kin. Indeed, the next of kin may be pressured by others who feel that their relationship with the decedent was more intimate and that therefore, their wishes should supersede the funeral service choices set forth by the actual next of kin. As next of kin, if you have not had any conversation with your loved one prior to his/her death, making serious decisions on their behalf can be stressful and difficult. You may find yourself second-guessing what the decedent might have wanted and what is affordable within a practical budget. The easiest way to navigate these difficulties is to broach this conversation before the events transpire. Continue Reading →

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STEPCHILDREN

About two months ago, a client of mine was traveling home on a backwoods country road after dining at his favorite café. My husband and I often dine at this café as well. Shortly after his death, his wife passed away. 

This past weekend, my husband and I were dining at this café, when one of my client’s adult daughters came in for a takeout order. I waved at her and she approached our table. I stood up to hug her and ask her how she is doing. Continue Reading →

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INSOMNIAC

My mother is an insomniac. In preparing for this article, I have pinpointed the moment that she began suffering this life-altering issue. It seems odd to me that I never realized it before, or that no one else ever put it together. She could have used the support, and probably a tender push toward grief counseling. My mother’s father was brutally murdered when I was a young girl in grade school. Continue Reading →

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AUTOPSY

Autopsies are generally ordered when someone dies unaccompanied or unattended. An unaccompanied death is a death that occurs where a person is alone and remains undiscovered for a period of time. An unattended death is a death that occurs when a person dies for no apparent reason and is not under the care of a physician. These two types of death raise questions associated with the reasons or causes of death. In these cases, the certifying death authority will, in most cases, order an autopsy. Continue Reading →

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MIKEY JOE 27 – HAPPY BIRTHDAY 2021

Wow, today is my grandson’s 3rd birthday. It is also the 3rd anniversary of his death. Recovering from his loss has been a painful journey, but I think that this year, we will finally be able to celebrate his birthday with more cheer than heartache. My family has so much to be thankful for. We are expecting a new grandbaby’s birth in just a few weeks from now, and we have other grandchildren that we love and adore. Continue Reading →

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MIKEY JOE 26 – ANNOUNCING

I was speaking with my daughter this morning. Her husband serves in our nation’s military, so they are stationed far away from home. She is expecting a child and her delivery is not far off. When her time comes, I will travel to her home in order to be with my grandchildren and care for them while their mother delivers their new baby sister. 

I look so forward to my time with them. As we spoke this morning, my daughter revealed that a friend of ours is also expecting. Continue Reading →

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NURTURING RECOVERY III

Most adults already possess the recovery skills necessary to overcome grief. These skills are gained as we travel through life and experience several smaller, less significant losses. Losses such as friends, pets, special keepsakes, and moving help us develop these skills in increments. As time passes and we mature, we build up a repertoire of recovery skills so that when the time comes, we are prepared to survive the losses of our loved ones. When we suffer the loss of a significant loved one, the excruciating pain and stress associated with that loss hamper our abilities to apply the recovery skills we have within our power to draw upon. Continue Reading →

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