When a family chooses to cremate their loved one, they are faced with just as many questions and decisions as those who choose to bury. All of the legal requirements surrounding the end of a human life still apply and whoever is next of kin must address these legalities in a timely and orderly manner. The loved ones of the deceased must also make decisions related to disposition. The most customary choices are earth burial or cremation.
If cremation is chosen, the next of kin must decipher the needs of the circle of mourners and arrange the most efficacious service elements relative to their recovery. Some families are widespread and do not need a formal selection of service options traditionally associated with death, some; however, do. Continue Reading →
The past two weeks have been difficult for me. I have suffered the loss of a dear friend and have served families that have suffered great losses. The COVID-19 pandemic has caused unwarranted loss, stress, and heartache to so many people this year. Not only have we lost loved ones, but we have lost our economy, our comfort, and our security as Americans.
Everywhere I look, it seems that people are rude and uncaring toward each other when what we need is love.
I wish we could be kind to each other, considerate to each other, and help each other through our difficulties rather than burning cities, burning businesses, and tearing apart what makes up great, our Union. Americans are the most blessed people in the world. Continue Reading →
I first met my friend when her husband passed away. It was a difficult time for her. I received the call that a man had passed at his home and that our services were requested by the family. My husband drove our hearse to the address and transferred the decedent back to our funeral home. The decedent’s wife came in to make final arrangements and that is when our friendship began. Continue Reading →
With 2020 being the worst year ever in most living adult’s lives, we have finally found new hope in our family. Our daughter is expecting a new arrival. My husband and I could not be happier for her. Two years ago, our daughter lost our sweet grandson, Mikey Joe, while living in Hawaii. The loss was devastating to our family and remains ever painful in our hearts. Continue Reading →
As a funeral director and grief counselor, I am asked almost daily, how does one overcome grief. The answer to this question may seem complex, however, it is quite simple. Of course, simplicity does not indicate easy or rapid results.
It should be noted that recovery from losing a loved one is unlike any other, for that which causes our grief is precisely our remedy. When one loses the object of their affection, the happiness within their heart vaporizes and is filled with sadness, loneliness, and pain. Should that affection develop more profoundly into love, upon death’s arrival, the joyous euphoria held deeply within the soul will disappear. Continue Reading →
Today is a weepy day for me. The clock has not yet struck noon and tears have already touched my cheeks numerous times. My daughter and her children have now left Texas. They have arrived at their new home in our nation’s capital. She and my grandchildren were reunited with my son-in-law after a five-month coronavirus imposed separation. Continue Reading →
My youngest daughter called me this morning. She had just returned home to her apartment from work. She works the overnight shift as an operator/dispatcher for an emergency assistance service.
As she was preparing to end her shift, her phone rang. She decided to go ahead and answer it as her replacement needed just a few more moments to ready herself, before sliding into the seat to take over. The call turned out to be particularly difficult.
An elderly gentleman was asking for help on the other end of the line. Continue Reading →
The heart shape is recognized the world over as a symbol of romantic love and affection. Everywhere I look I see little signs that say “I ♥ You”. The heart, however, is also filled with love that is not romantic.
Consider for a moment your love for chocolate or designer shoes. Your love for these items is not necessarily romantic or affectionate. It is more of an extreme preference that brings on the production of endorphins akin to those produced by love. Continue Reading →
As we enter the summer months, the weather begins to invite us outdoors. Families and friends having fun in the sun can be seen far and wide. The fragrance of sunscreen has returned to the air, and peals of laughter from children playing games reach my ears. Summer promises to be a much sought after break from the recent quarantine we have all undergone. I, for one, am anxious to be done with quarantine. Continue Reading →
Things are finally looking better, at least, the attitudes of the people seem to be brighter. I ventured out with my grandchildren this weekend. During the COVID-19 Pandemic Shelter in Place order my grandchildren have outgrown their shoes. We have also passed into a new season so their clothing needs have changed as well. We enjoyed our time out of the house this weekend and we bought a tin of shortbread cookies to celebrate. Continue Reading →