I just received a phone call from a friend whose brother I buried about 2 weeks ago. She was checking in with me because today is a holiday and she is missing her brother.
We spoke for a moment. Our conversation drifted to that which is most important to each of us; family. Additionally, we spoke of our blessings. We agreed to get together next week and work on her genealogy. Continue Reading →
As a funeral director, I interview families daily about the lives of their loved ones. My purpose is to extract vital, as well as, personal information. With this information, I am able to file proper documents pertaining to the decedent’s life, carry out wishes of final disposition, and write an accurate and proper obituary for the decedent.
Obituaries are unique instruments that are brief descriptions of a decedent’s life. Its purpose is to deliver vital information, as well as a brief personal description of the decedent’s life. Historically, an obituary was placed in the newspaper to alert the community that a death had occurred, and to post information pertaining to final services. Continue Reading →
I have the second most wonderful job on earth. I used to have the best job on earth. That job was raising my children. My daughters are now grown women who no longer need the undivided attention of their adoring mother, so with time on my hands, I now occupy my days with the second most wonderful job; the job of funeral directing.
When I decided to become a funeral director, I didn’t know that it was going to be such a wonderful job. In fact, at times I questioned myself about my decision. Continue Reading →
Patience is the ability to hold yourself in check until the change you seek materializes. It is rarely comfortable for change requires purpose, application, growth, and movement. Whether the change we seek is within ourselves, or in those around us, the application of patience, although long-suffering, may bring about great rewards. ~Tracy Lee
When suffering a significant loss, recovery may require months, and in some cases years to materialize. Recovery does not happen overnight. Continue Reading →
I have often written about the first key to recovery. GREIF BRIEF 208
The first key is recovery is to DECIDE TO RECOVER. (Mourning Light III, Tracy Lee)
Following the first key, would be the second key.
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DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE
While the first key to recovery is to decide to recover, the second key to recovery is to discover your purpose in life.
Without a purpose in life, it is impossible to recover to an acceptable standard of comfort.
You must have a purpose, a direction on which to focus your heart, mind, and efforts. Without such a purpose, your mind will dwell on the pain of your loss, and soon you will drown in anguish.
Your will alone will not bring total recovery. You must merge it with your mind’s ability to intellectually discern your purpose; your heart’s desire to serve, love, and accomplish that purpose; and your efforts to achieve your purposeful goals.
With profound purpose, your soul will redirect your energies toward its accomplishment, and the by-product will be grief recovery. Continue Reading →
Have you ever done something that you later regretted? I have. Have you ever been embarrassed by your actions or angry at yourself for something you have said or done to another? I have. Has your regret, embarrassment, or anger ever limited your daily life, your happiness, or your future? Continue Reading →
Because COVID 19 ravaged many levels of our existence, its affects encompass losses of life, income, friendship, companionship, jobs, homes, self-esteem, etc. These losses usher grief into our lives. Grief is a wild beast. It is bigger than you are and it infiltrates all aspects of your life and soul. Because of the enormity of grief, it is recommended that you enlist the assistance of someone or something bigger than yourself.
In my last article, I promised to share with you the secret to drawing on your inner strength to overcome the ravages of grief. Continue Reading →
In one’s journey to grief recovery, one must first and foremost decide to recover. Without your decision to do so, recovery will not materialize. No one can recover for you. You alone must seek and obtain this recovery for yourself. Of course, there are others along the way that can and will assist you; however, if you want recovery, you must obtain it yourself. Continue Reading →
Today is the most dreaded day of the year, today is tax day. You’d think that after a year of government imposed shut downs, the bureaucrats would have lost their audacity to collect taxes from people whose income has suffered a severe decrease. Apparently, bureaucrats don’t care if your income has suffered as long as their income has not. All around me I see families who have lost their homes, vehicles, jobs, businesses, and savings; but worst of all, I see individuals who have lost their self-worth. Whose fault is that? Who is responsible for the loss of so much? Continue Reading →
Today is Easter, it is morning, and I am visiting the beautiful state of Georgia. I am at my brother-in-law’s home near Savannah, and as I sit at his breakfast table, I can look out of his enormous bay windows into his backyard. His yard is filled with a small herd of deer, whom he calls his girls, waiting anxiously for him to rise and feed them buckets of sweet corn. Just behind these lovely does is a sandy bank where his pond, glimmering with the morning sun, greets my gaze with the promise and beauty of Christ’s gifts of redemption and love. My brother-in-law’s home is a tranquil retreat from the world that bombards my heart with strife and turmoil. Continue Reading →